Greetings Everyone,
I hope you are all well this week. I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving. Though life can be challenging, there is always something to be thankful for. Everyday a person wakes up should be enough reason to rejoice as there is someone else who did not. This is the basis of today’s post.
After running into my ex-husband over the summer, he and I continue to talk sporadically through our employer’s messaging system. He has called me a few times because I asked him to, but only from his office’s phone. Despite the pain I continue to feel because of our situation, I am still nice to him and we are civil at the moment. No, I do not have romantic feelings for him or want him back. In my mind, he will always have a special place in my heart. He will always be family to me. At most, we would be friends. It seems unlikely we will get to that point, however I won’t change my interactions with him based on the opinions of so many. With that being said, we had a chance meeting at the office within the last couple of weeks since I had a meeting at that particular office. I saw him as I was leaving. I called his name and waved to him. When I arrived back to my office, I messaged him. I asked if I interrupted him. He told me I didn’t interrupt him. He told me that he wanted to tell me that his grandmother passed away.
At one point in time, his grandmother and I were very close. In fact, he and I were not even together for 10 minutes when I met her. She embraced me from day one. If you ever seen anything involving Tyler Perry’s character, Madea, his grandmother embodied that persona. She is the complete opposite of my grandmother in that aspect. She always told me that I could stay in touch with her in the event he and I broke up. Unfortunately, I did not reach out to her within the last few years based on everything that he and I were going through. Plus with him being remarried, I did not want to cause a problem. I was extremely heartbroken by the news. I still am. Death is a hard subject for me. The irony is that I had been thinking about her a lot in recent weeks. I regret not reaching out more. Unfortunately, so much life happened. It is no excuse and something I will likely internalize for a while. I do not know any details regarding her passing. I offered my support to both him, his aunt and various other relatives. It is funny that death tends to bring people together.
I am grateful my ex-husband and I are at the point where we are civil. It took a lot of healing, a lot of which I still have to do. Life happens after divorce. You will overcome. The key thing is for you to heal. Take time for yourself and focus on you before you immerse yourself into another relationship. I am still working on me, and it did a lot of good for me. Divorce taught me so many lessons that I will never forget. In many ways, it made me stronger. It does not hurt any less.
I did everything I was told that I would never do after my divorce. I graduated from grad school with honors in 2018. I obtained my driver’s license in 2018. I also purchased a car in 2019. I currently have a friend who treats me like gold. He tells me often that I experienced everything I did with my ex-husband so that I could find a man who truly loved me. I believe there is some truth in that. I always preach how everything happens for a reason and we all cross paths for a reason. I am grateful for all experiences either way, as I gain a lot from them. You will survive after your divorce. Don’t let it defeat or consume you. Rebound and find strength within yourself. Peace and Blessings. Rayne Elise.
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